With Valentines Day fast approaching, I think it’s fair to say we all feel that growing sense of desperation for companionship start to slowly surface: what is it about these cliches that gets us all going?
At such a time, it is easy to fall into the entrapment of the first guy/girl who looks your way. We may start dancing that little bit sexier, actually do the wearisome chore of ironing before a big night out and spray on that extra sprinkle of cologne. Luckily for us, the majority of people are on the same wavelength, and with the aura of desperation suffocatingly filling clubs and bars, our chances of finding that lucky Valentine rises rapidly.
HOWEVER, anyone can be charming. More than once have I gone for the ‘safe option’. The safe option is always the nice guy, and so I feel horrible attaching this label, but it conveys my point effectively. We all want to be loved, and sometimes it’s far to easy to attach yourself to the first option rather than wait around for something worthwhile. Charm quickly wears off, your attachment to said person may remain, but don’t settle, soon the irritating habits and the dodgy haircut you tried to ignore will overwhelm the initial charm. Effectively, you become the bad guy for hurting the nice guy.
So here’s the ingenious solution we’ve all be looking for:
-First and foremost, ladies, let’s not watch Bridget Jones with a tub of Ice-cream this year
-Avoid The Notebook like it’s the plague
-Think about the sense of relief and escapism after a break up when you realize you actually love single life
-Embody the liberating persona of the 21st Century woman and be independent, career focused, promiscuous? What ever makes you happy. Just don’t be sucked into the media spiel that indoctrinates you with the outdated notions of monogamy and companionship.
Having something is not necessarily better than nothing. If the sparks aren’t flying after the few first dates they probably never will. You can’t learn to be in love.
It’s 2013, aim higher!